At the heart of NYYANI is a dedication to breaking the cycle that families find themselves trapped in, due to past experiences or challenging starts in life. I often tell my clients that life coaching with me isn’t just a phase you’ll go through – it’s a genuine commitment to rewriting the story of your life.
Breaking Free from Generational Struggles
Growing up, my life was marked by instability. My mum was a victim of domestic violence but we were scared to seek help from the authorities for fear that we’d be taken away from her. Homelessness became my reality and I went to 27 different primary schools! In the face of this adversity, I made a promise to myself at the age of 8 – a promise to break the cycle.
The struggles faced by previous generations can create a ripple effect, influencing the behaviours, beliefs and coping mechanisms of their children, grandchildren and beyond. When individuals are raised in environments marked by adversity, trauma or dysfunction, it often becomes a blueprint for their own approach to life.
Unresolved issues from the past can affect your emotional well-being and lead to challenges in relationships, financial problems and unhealthy lifestyles. Breaking free from this cycle requires a conscious effort to recognise, and stop, the generational patterns that you might have been following.
A Vision
Despite the promise that I made, I actually found myself heading down this same path. Poor choices, a relationship breakdown and even time in prison. How did I break the cycle? And how did I create healthier dynamics within my own family?
I made a courageous decision to create a new life in Perth, WA, leaving behind the familiar surroundings of Victoria. This move marked a significant shift for me. I worked to transform my personal life and met a positive and supportive partner. Professionally, I took on a new job and eventually decided to leave my profession entirely, choosing to follow my dream of becoming a life coach. I broke free from the patterns of the past and created a new path for myself and my children, who mean everything to me.
Tools for Transformation
Through my experiences, I’ve come to understand that breaking the cycle is about more than just good intentions, it needs action! That’s exactly why my life coaching business was developed – to give families the practical tools they need to make real lasting change.
NYYANI focuses on skills development, realistic goal setting and ways to create a nurturing and safe home environment for yourself and your children. There’s no judgment and no telling you what to do or where you went wrong. Instead, I guide you with practical strategies.
How can we break the cycle?
My approach is personalised to the circumstances of each family to ensure that solutions will be effective and sustainable in the long run.
Here are some examples:
- Communication: improve the way family members communicate with each other by introducing open discussions and active listening.
- Goal Setting: setting short-term and long-term goals for the family, whether related to education, career, lifestyle choices or personal challenges.
- Conflict Resolution: developing techniques to handle disagreements within a healthy and supportive space.
- Parenting Skills: positive parenting techniques, discipline strategies and creating a nurturing home environment.
- Time Management: helping to set realistic schedules and routines to manage daily tasks and responsibilities.
- Preparing for Crisis: develop strategies to navigate crisis situations, such as relationship breakdowns or external challenges, and create contingency plans.
- Building Support Networks: encourage supportive relationships within and outside the family, strengthening your family’s overall support system.
- Financial Planning: create useful systems for budgeting, financial planning and long-term financial goals to create stability and reduce stress.
- Cultural Identity: celebrate and preserve cultural identity, promoting a sense of belonging and pride within the family.
My overall goal is to empower individuals, creating a positive ripple effect that extends to families and communities. Your children and the generations that follow are the ones that will ultimately benefit, as positive change resonates through families.
If you find yourself caught in the cycle, and unsure of how to break it, please reach out to me. NYYANI provides a safe space for individuals and families to set goals and build resilient, healthy families.
Book a free Discovery Call with me and begin re-writing your life story today.
– Nyoka 💕
